Rathsallagh is not a hotel it’s a country house and all of the rooms are different in terms of size, decoration and configuration. There are also two Lodges as well at either end of the property . The bride and groom control the House so they will have decided in advance as to which room you are allocated. There is only one family room in the sense that it has two separate bedrooms and a shared bathroom its called the Kilbarry but you may not have been given that room. Your best bet is to contact the Rathsallagh team directly and ask they as to what room you have been allocated and what the configuration is.

Yes there was an iron board and iron in our room

There are arches and plenty of trees to use for cover and can be used for spectator photos

I am unsure as did not request adjoining rooms however if you contact the hotel directly they will help you as they are so efficient and friendly